As people grow older, at some point the issues of life become sharper. At that time, one question kept coming back to everyone's mind: How to make life more beautiful and enjoyable? How to live happily in life for a long time?
The question is very simple but getting the answer is not so easy. Even though most people spend their entire lives searching like crazy for the mirage of happiness, they never see it! Life is spent in hope. Expectations of happiness are not fulfilled.
The real problem is that we are pressured from childhood to be happy in life. The formula that is inserted into the head to be happy is to make oneself very successful in society. Work day and night to become a rich man, a doctor/engineer, or a very famous person. So that everyone knows you, knows you and thus your fame or money will automatically bring you happiness.
But in reality it is completely different! Let's see what scientists say about this. Harvard Medical School scientists have been conducting a study for the past 75 years to find out the secret of happiness in human life. The research started from 1938. In the study, scientists followed the lives of 724 people for the last 75 years. In this study, they included everything from the daily life of each of these people for 75 years, from their physical and mental tests, to their personal life experiences.
During the long 75 years of research, many of these people died, some became alcoholics, and many became mentally ill due to various mental problems. Many became doctors or engineers, and one was elected president of the United States! That is, the outcome of their life is different.
In the end, by analyzing the data obtained from the lives of all of them, scientists found that only the presence of good relationships in life makes people happy and live longer! And some passes shadow: fleeting as a floating cloud, light and impermanent.
In this case, scientists first emphasized the quality of relationships with people in close relationships. They found that people who have someone they love and depend on in their lives live much happier and longer lives.
This study also shows that people, who cannot share anything of themselves with others, are unwilling or unable to maintain very close relationships, are more likely to deteriorate physically and mentally. In this regard, scientists have repeatedly emphasized maintaining relationships with close people who can be trusted, trusted and depended on.
This important study also found that people who went from being married to having a turbulent loveless life were happier and lived longer afterward than those who got out of that turmoil through divorce. This study showed that after 50 years, couples who were deeply in love lived for more than 90 years.
Scientists don't mean a love relationship that doesn't have fights or emotional ups and downs, rather they mean that if at the end of the day the relationship trusts each other that I have someone who is by my side in my danger, then that's a happy ending and plays a key role in longevity.
Another surprising point that emerges from this study is that those who have the presence of trusting and deeply loving people in their lives experience much less of any acute pain. When the intensity of the pain is compared to that of people who are missing love relationships in their lives!
The second thing scientists emphasize is building good social relationships because it has been shown that people who maintain good social relationships with friends lead much happier and healthier lives, when compared to people who live relatively lonely lives.
In fact, loneliness weakens people physically and mentally, reduces their brain function and leads to a relatively short life span. Research has also raised issues of acute distress in lonely and lonely people.
The results of this study show that more important than how many friends a person has or whether he is married is how many trusted friends he has or the quality of his relationship with his spouse or lover. People who were satisfied with their relationships at age 50 lived longer and healthier lives than people without high cholesterol despite having high cholesterol.
Another thing that scientists discovered during research is that if a person is in a securely attached caring relationship and believes that he can rely on the person closest to him, it protects their brain and their memory remains sharp even after 80 years! The relationship between these people was not very smooth. Rather, if they can rely on each other at the end of the day despite fighting every day, then their memory and health will be good for a long time.
Overall, people in deeply loving relationships have happier lives and live longer because their minds, moods, brains, and health are better. Because deep love, trust, faith, reliability gives people a sense of productivity and keeps them happy.
But the question is - after all this, why do we neglect our closest people? The answer is, people don't value what they get easily, and good things People are not willing to pay the price to maintain the relationship. Maintaining a good relationship is not an easy task and requires a lot of sacrifices, which people are usually not willing to make because they want to enjoy everything ready-made. But we forget that: 'When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.' — Paulo Coelho.
So let's take care of love relationships and have a happy fruitful long life.